The Older I Get...

The simplicity of life is like a curve graph starting at the lower edge, rising and falling with times and seasons and hinging on cares.

~Olajumoke

As much as I would like to think that my life is really simple, I must say that my cares have evolved over the years and, this post is to briefly take you on a journey on how my "cares" have evolved over the years.

So, here we go;

At 1 and 2, I only cared about the breastmilk, water, sweets, biscuits, sleep, food and play.

At 3, I still cared about the same things but this time, I wanted to talk, I was eager to say the things I had heard people say around me.

At 4, 5 and 6, I cared about the cartoons, the nursery rhymes, play, my friends and of course, chocolates!

At, 7, 8 and 9, I cared about my assignments, class exercises, exams, coming first in my class, plus a little bit of play (because I was a gentle girl).

At 10, 11 and 12, I cared about my new school (secondary school) and new friends until I got my first seriously written 'love letter' when I was 12 and I began to care a little about my looks (don't judge me *covers face*, I showed the letter to my mum and it ended there).

At 13, 14, 15, I cared about passing my exams, a little about the attention from boys and my looks.

At 16, I cared about my admission into the university and yeah, my new friends, managing the independence I had just gotten (first time away from my parents), my looks too.

At 17, 18 and 19, I cared about getting good grades, maintaining a good GP, having a boyfriend (*coughs mischievously*), my looks again and a bit about my relationship with God (smh, when a relationship with God should have been my first priority).

At 20, 21, I cared about graduating from the university, serving my country (NYSC), getting a good job that pays 6 digits, just making money really early, I almost stopped caring about the boys at this time (for real, it was money over boys).

At 22, 23, I cared about keeping my job, having less challenges at work, improving to reduce my boss’ complaints and trying to find a work life-balance. I was really drowning in the challenges this phase of work and life posed. I think I got a lot of things wrong but God showed up!

At 24, 25, life had hit very hard relatively, so I cared about finding a different life outside work, finding fulfilment, I cared about starting a business in line with my passion, I also cared about making a 'dream' relationship work. I just cared about having peace and some form of sanity! I was about to lose my mind and perhaps lose it all. And for the countless time, God showed up!

At 26, there was a major change for the better, so I cared about having it differently from what it had been in the past years, I cared about proving myself to be better than I had been made to believe I was, I cared about "men" (not boys), I cared about finding healing, getting my groove back and being a new and real me. I cared about rising with my head never to be down again.

And now at 27, I’m not sure I care about so many things, I just care about these few things;

• Having an intimate and inseparable father-daughter and friend-to-friend relationship with God.

• Finding purpose and calling more than just following passion and money.

• Finding expressions for my calling and giving ALL I’ve got to it.

• Being found by the one that will love me like Christ loves the church and building something made in heaven with him.

• Giving my very best to my friends and family and building a real connection with them all.

• Getting great REWARDS for my past and present work, labour and pain.

• Making wealth.

• Living in peace and health (in every form).

• About me me me and me, my peace, my sanity, my satisfaction and growth.

• And I care about you, yes you for real and I want to give all I can and know how to do to be a blessing to you.

Looking at these things I care about now, I see GROWTH and I am grateful.

I guess it's true that with change in age comes a change in one’s perspective to life.

Have your cares changed over the years?

Ask yourself what the 7 things you care about the most are and see if they will lead you to living the life you desire.

Cheers to an amazing new year!